Thursday, September 17, 2009

We miss our friend


She joined office in December. She is very talkative. Her marriage was fixed by that time and she used to talk about her engagement and fiancee. She talks in such a way that everybody gets interested in listening rather than talking.
Her wedding took place in March of the following year. I planned to attend but could not because of lack of leaves. She took one month leave and returned in April after Honeymoon. She came up with bunch of sweet memories.
She is kind of girl who cannot hide her feelings or thoughts. She speaks a lot. She was good entertainer. Earlier (before she joined) our coffee breaks were short. But after she joined our coffee breaks were extended to half an hour. She is our lunchmate too. At the lunch time we spent in the park after having lunch listening to her stories.
She talks mainly about her husband and her life in the weekends when she visits her husband (her husband is working in other city). Except her remaining of us (lunch team comprises four) are bachelors. Sometimes she speaks about the things which were unknown to us (as we are unmarried and we don't know about married life and formalities to be done among in laws etc. :-)). Any topic we used to start that ended with the topic of her husband. This showed us how much she is fond of her husband and how caring she is.
She resigned recently and we also shifted from old facility to new facility. Here she is not with us. She is now with her husband. I hope she is happy now to be with her hubby :). We miss her gossip and her laugh. She was so caring that I used to share my feelings with her.
I REALLY MISS HER.

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Feeling Lazy


I am feeling so lazy these days that I am getting up at 7:30 in the morning. I am doing nothing extra except my office work and that is also in office only. I have to prepare for Civil Services Examination. If I am going to write exam next year, I have to start preparation at least now. This year I had ruined my chance. I came to know at the time of last preparation itself that we have to start preparing for the exam immediately after the college. But the thought of applying for exam came to my mind after 1 year. Now see I am not at all reading. Reading means reading newspaper only till now. In college days (good olden days), we used to wake up at 5:30 or 6 though exams were far away. In hostel(working women's hostel), environment is such that I am disturbed or I myself not willing to even read. But I have to read anyway. I have to take it seriously and get myself motivated.
WISH ME ALL THE BEST YAAR :-)

Sunday, August 16, 2009

My friend's wedding

























I attended my best friend's marriage on August 7th (Friday) which took place in Vizag. She got married to her coisine and love Ravi. I went four days prior to wedding just to give company to my friend Bhargavi. I went to Vizag directly from my hometown on Monday. When I reached her house, we were very happy to see each other. Since I finished my B.Tech I visited her many times say once in five months. So, I am familiar to her family and to her relatives. Marriage preparations were going on very fast. I went for mini shopping with Bhargavi. On 5th Aug she was made bride. She looked cute and beautiful in that saree(Snaps are attached). That day onwards till wedding she should not go outside the house. Ofcourse there was only day in between. We had fantastic time together in college as well as after college. I thought I would miss her after marriage since I cannot visit her after marriage.
On August 7th, the Big Day had came. Our friends had arrived and we got ready so that we can go with Bhargavi to Mandapam after lunch at 3:20 pm. Bhargavi was bit nervous about wedding since uncle and aunt (her parents) were not feeling well. She started to Mandapam at 3:20. We went after her in the second trip. By that time she got ready for "nalugu". After that ceremony, she had to get ready for "Gauri Pooja" and "Pratanam" in bridal saree itself. Bhargavi's colleagues helped her to get ready. During that time we went to groom's (Ravi) room. He was ready in his dress. We took snaps together. After that Bhargavi's grandmother got hurt accidentally. Her little finger got injured. She was taken to hospital accompanied by Bhargavi's aunt and uncle.
Bhargavi was upset because of this incident throughout the wedding. Muhurtam was at 9:02pm. Grandmother appeared at the end of wedding. Then smile came to her face.
After wedding bride and groom were sent to have dinner. They were served dinner but it was too late i.e. 11pm.
Wedding took place without any problems as Bhargavi worried about. She was very happy that she got married to her love and the best person. We are happy for her.

Bhargavi WISH YOU A VERY HAPPY MARRIED LIFE :-)

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Something Important...please pass it on

Hello Friends,

If you have come across any bright students coming from poor financial
background who have finished their 10th standard this year (April
2009) and scored more than 80%, please ask them to contact the
NGO-Prerana (supported by Infosys foundation).

The NGO is conducting a written test and those who clear the test will
be eligible for financial help for their further studies. Please ask
the students to contact the people mentioned below to get the form
#580,shubhakar, 44th cross,1st 'A' main road,jayanagar 7th block
Bangalore-mob no- 9900906338(saraswat i)

Mr.Shivkumar( 9986630301) - Hanumanthnagar office
Ms.Bindu(9964534667 )-Yeshwantpur office, BANGALORE.


Even if you dont know anyone, please pass on this info, some one might
be in need of this help desperately.

Sunday, July 5, 2009

Our great friend

I want to tell you one funny incident that happened with my friend (hostelmate).
She was going to her hometown on last Thursday. Departure time for her train was 10:00 pm. She started from hostel at 8:30 pm. We were watching movie when we got call from her at 10:15pm. She told us to check the online ticket booked by her for her journey since she got wrong ticket printed. We checked in her booked history where there was no ticket booked for Thursday i.e. for 2nd July. Last ticket booked was for 30th June on which date she booked ticket. Then we came to know that she forgot to change the date of journey and booked for the date on which day she booked the ticket. We knew that she didn't took general ticket. We called her back and told her to give some money to TTE and ask him to allow her to get adjusted in one of the berths in train. But she told us that she didn't even have money except Rs.20/-. We were so worried about her. She asked us whether she should get down from train when train was moving. We told her to stay in the train and walk towards ladies compartment where the possibility of ticket checking would be less and also to look for any person who was from her homwetown so that they can help her by giving their support. We got call from her after 15 minutes that she met her friend in some compartment and he was also travelling to the same place. But he too didn't had enough money to give to TTE. Somehow they both managed to get money from their villager and convince TTE. Both of them got adjusted in her friend's berth. \In the morning when they got down from train her brother came to station with money to give their villager.
We were so worried for forty five minutes that we keep calling her. But this morning when she came we made fun of her and called her "tingari".
I hope this incident taught her to be more careful while booking the ticket and travelling with more preparation like sufficient money, printout of booked ticket etc.

Team Outing

We went for team outing on Thursday. The plan was to go for lunch and one movie. Our colleagues booked tickets for Terminator-Salvation and lunch was planned in Barbeque Nation.
We started at 11:45 from office to Barbeque Nation. I have been there for three times so I know the items very well. On Thursday I am vegetarian. We had barbeque first and went for buffey. It is high end restaurant which charges Rs.350/- for lunch and Rs.450/- for dinner per person. We were done with startes and main course. In desserts section, there were many items. One item was lemon shuffle which looked like butter scotch ice cream. I don't like ice creams so I didn't take that. But many of our teammates took it since our manager put it in his plate. The people who took it took it in large quantities without knowing its taste. When each of them tasted it he/she didn't put another spoon in his/her mouth. It was that much bad. They told that it was neither sweet nor sour like lemon. I thought I am in safe side since I didn't take it.

After lunch we went for movie in cinemax (Banjara Hills). We waited for our boss to come to theatre. When he came we went into the theatre which was small with capacity of hardly 300 people. Movie started with war between human beings and machines. Throughout the first half it was same. Same machines, same graveyard etc. I got bored and got headache. In the second half it was better since we can see heroines in that part. It was not that good also but little better compared to hte first one. By the time movie was completed my head was spinning like a wheel. I thought my God! please drop me at my hostel as soon as possible. Luckily my manager dropped me in fifteen minutes. I went to room, got my dress changed and just fell on the bed. My head was aching so badly that I couldn't bear it. I slept for one and half hour and felt better. I wished next day to be holiday. But next day was Friday and had to go to office. by the time I went to office my headache was gone. My head again started pounding when my group manager called us for meeting and announced terrible news to us. Oh God! please give some peace to me :(

Friday, June 12, 2009

Time Management

I had heard few things regarding time management and I want to share them with you (readers).

Actually there are four main types of planning systems through which we can do things in time or achieve our goals:
(1)Preparing a list of activities with checkbox and just marking tick when completed. It is helpful for the activities of a day or two maximum of week.
(2)Maintaining a planner, organizer, calendar or appointment books in which we can list the activities through which we can achieve short term or long term goals.
(3)The third generation is of prioritization, of clarifying values, and of comparing the relative
worth of activities based on their relationship to those values. It focuses on setting goals -specific long-, intermediate-, and short-term targets toward which time and energy would be directed in harmony with values. It also includes the concept of daily planning, of making a specific plan to accomplish those goals and activities determined to be of greatest worth.
(4)Fourth generation is different. It is managing yourselves rather than time managing you.
It recognizes that "time management" is really a misnomer -- the challenge is not to manage time, but to manage ourselves. Satisfaction is a function of expectation as well as realization. And expectation (and satisfaction) lie in our Circle of Influence. Rather than focusing on things and time, fourth-generation expectations focus on preserving and enhancing relationships and accomplishing results -- in short, on maintaining the P/PC Balance (Production/Production capacity).

There are four quadrants in which we do work or activities which influence our produuctivity.
Quadrant I:
The activities which are urgent and as well as important. One should not wait for the important activitites to become urgent. The person in this zone will fed up easily since he/she has to do the urgent things and cannot concentrate on the goal he wants to achieve.
Urgent matters are usually visible. They press on us; they insist on action. They're often popular
with others. They're usually right in front of us. And often they are pleasant, easy, fun to do. But so often they are unimportant! Importance, on the other hand, has to do with results. If something is important, it contributes to your mission, your values, your high priority goals.
We usually call the activities in Quadrant I "crises" or "problems." We all have some Quadrant I activities in our lives. But Quadrant I consumes many people. They are crisis managers, problem-minded people, the deadline-driven producers. As long as you focus on Quadrant I, it keeps getting bigger and bigger until it dominates you. It's like the pounding surf. A huge problem comes and knocks you down and you're wiped out. You struggle back up only to face another one that knocks you down and slams you to the ground.
Quadrant II:
The activities which are not urgent but important. One should be in this zone. The people who wants manage themselves, achieve his/her goal and wants to be happy should be in this zone.
Important matters that are not urgent require more initiative, more proactivity. We must act to seize opportunity, to make things happen.
QuadrantIII:
There are other people who spend a great deal of time in "urgent, but not important" Quadrant III, thinking they're in Quadrant I. They spend most of their time reacting to things that are urgent, assuming they are also important. But the reality is that the urgency of these matters is often based on the priorities and expectations of others.
QuadrantIV:
As long as you focus on Quadrant I, it keeps getting bigger and bigger until it dominates you. It's
like the pounding surf. A huge problem comes and knocks you down and you're wiped out. You
struggle back up only to face another one that knocks you down and slams you to the ground.
Some people are literally beaten up by the problems all day every day. The only relief they have is in escaping to the not important, not urgent activities of Quadrant IV. So when you look at their total matrix, 90 percent of their time is in Quadrant I and most of the remaining 10 percent is in Quadrant IV with only negligible attention paid to Quadrants II and III. That's how people who manage their lives by crisis live.
People who spend time almost exclusively in Quadrants III and IV basically lead irresponsible lives. Effective people stay out of Quadrants III and IV because, urgent or not, they aren't important. They also shrink Quadrant I down to size by spending more time in Quadrant II.
Quadrant II is the heart of effective personal management. It deals with things that are not urgent, but are important. It deals with things like building relationships, writing a personal mission statement, long-range planning, exercising, preventive maintenance, preparation -- all those things we know we need to do, but somehow seldom get around to doing, because they aren't urgent. To paraphrase Peter Drucker, effective people are not problem-minded; they're opportunity-minded. They feed opportunities and starve problems. They think preventively. They have genuine Quadrant I crises and emergencies that require their immediate attention, but the number is comparatively small. They keep P and PC in balance by focusing on the important, but not the urgent, high-leverage capacity-building activities of Quadrant II.\

What one thing could you do in your personal and professional life that, if you did on a regular basis, would make a tremendous positive difference in your life? Quadrant II activities have that kind of impact. Our effectiveness takes the quantum leaps when we do them.

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Marriage Trip

My colleague Abhijit invited us (his close friends in office) to his marriage (21st May, Thursday). He was expecting us to come to his wedding which took place in north Karnataka. One week before the marriage we (first count was 8) were also very excited and ready to go for wedding. Then the problem started for everyone one by one. Karthik dropped by saying that he has to go Bangalore and then Chennai in the weekend. Next day Suma dropped because of her roommate's problem. We six members were ready to go by that time. Rajy (Suma's teammate) dropped because of her mother's health problem. Surya insisted Vasudev to come two days before wedding. So, we were six again to go. Surya booked the cab for us. Just one day before our journey Shweta dropped because of work load. I was the only girl in the group so I dropped. Finally there were four members. For four members cab would be expensive. So, first they decided to go by bus and then dropped the idea of going to marriage. On the day of wedding we were in office and we were discussing the possible excuses we can make since Abhijit would ask us why we missed the wedding.Surya said the all was because of me. I dropped so they didn't go by cab but obviously that was not true. No body was responsible for what had happened. It was just funny fate that we could not go for his wedding. :)

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Exam experience

I am preparing for UPSC Exam (just out of my interest). My preparation has not reached the satisfactory level. Since I am working I could not put much effort on the preparation and till last week I was worried about my job. Just one week before my prelims I got confirmation regarding my job. So, I had one week to prepare. But because of office work I wasted that time also. Preliminary exam for Civil Services was held on May 17th. On May 16th (Saturday) I thought of not appearing for exam since I had to go office on that day too. In the evening, we started DJ in our hostel room. Till 1'oclock in the morning of May 17th (Prelims was on that day) we had DJ. After that I saw my hall ticket and felt guilty. Finally I decided to write exam.My roommate Priya gave me pencil, eraser and sharpener which were required for exam. I had pens.
Exam was to be commenced from 9:30 to 11:30 and 2:30 to 4:30. Morning session was of optional subject. In Prelims, aspirants can choose one subject from number of options as his/her optional. I took Indian History as my optional. Afternoon session was of General Studies which contains questions regarding almost all subjects or sections. My exam center was at Abids and I am staying in Madhapur. So, I had to leave at 8'o clock and I had to reach there half an hour before exam as per the instructions in hall ticket. I started in bus which was going to Koti and I was so worried whether I could make it to sit 4 hrs in the Examination Hall since last night I did'nt sleep well. I thought of coming back in the afternoon without writing General Stidies Exam if I feel uneasy.
I reached the examination hall i hour before the exam. I thought,'Oh, My God! I has to wait for one hour in that hot sun'. I was looking for somebody whom I could talk and spedn 3 hrs between the Optional and General Studies exams. Luckily one girl came to me and asked where is the list of roll no.s and the room no.s allotted. I told her the answer and started to talk with her. She also came alone. Many aspirants came along with their parents or brothers. I wonder how the parents can wait till 4:30. We are atleast writing the exam and it is our exam. But they had to wait doing nothing in that hot sun. (On that day climate was very hot.) At 9'o clock school authority allowed us into the rooms allotted to us. The girl I mentioned above(her name is Bindu from UP) took Physics as her optional so she went to another room. I told her to wait till I come so that we can stick together for another 3 hrs before the second exam. At 9:20 invigilator gave us OMR sheet i.e answer sheet. (The Preliminary exam contains only objective type of questions). At 9:30 she gave question paper but told us not to start answering till they sadid to do so. At around 9:35-9:40 invigilators allowed us to start the exam. The exam paper seemed to be easy for me if I had read my notes thoroughly. But I didn't read so I could not write well. But I answered almost all questions (negative marking is there) half an hour before the time. At 11:35 invigilator took answer sheets from us and we left the room. Bindu was waiting for me outside the hall.
We came outside and sat infront of the school for one hour. We got bored and went to Mc Donalds so that we can sit in AC. We ordered and it took almost one hour for our order to come. We thought its for our good only since we still have 2 hrs for second exam. We discussed many things and I came to know that Physics paper was also easy and logical. At 1:30 we came out of Mac D and went to school. We went inside the school and sat in the examination hall. Morning there was no pwer in the hall because of maintenance problem in school. By afternoon it was fixed and they switched on main. But fan was far from me so the room was so hot for me. At 2:35 we started the exam. General Studies paper was tough. I answered almost all the questions (answers that I thought would be fit for the questions) except 5 or6. At 4:30 exam was over. Bindu and I went to Koti. She said good bye to me. I bought fruits in Koti and returned to Madhapur at 6'o clock.
This was my experience of UPSC exam. No body should prepare like me for UPSC exam. Strong determination, hard work, intelligence and little bit of luck are needed to through this exam. I decided to prepare well for my second attempt in the next coming year. Friends wish me all the best :-).

Aadya's Love Story

I am back after so many days with a story.

Aadya used to work in a reputed company and she was happy with her job. She came from a middle class family. She had no adventures in her life till she turned to 22. One fine day somehow she met one person called Sumit through one of her friends. At first Aadya was not at all interested in his talk though he talked very nicely. She even tried to avoid him but failed since he was calling her everyday and talking about everything. She used to give reply just in one or two words. One day he made her upset and she told him directly that she didn't want to see his face and won't talk with him again. He pleaded her to forgive him and even cried. Aadya felt guilty and forgave him. On the same day she talked with him for the whole day (4-5hrs in a day) about everything like politics, sports, movies etc. They became close friends in a period of two to three months. But Aadya had the feelings other than friendship. She used to share everything with him anything bad or good. If she felt sad or happy, first she had to share with him. If he talked about any girl in his office, she used to feel jealous.

Aadya was not sure whether Sumit had same feelings on her as she had on him. She didn't even dare to ask him. She talked about everything except her love. She experienced torture since she was not able to express and at the same time not able to conceal them. He was behaving as she was one of his good friends but for her he was the only one in the world who was so close to her.

One morning Sumit called her and told that he got job on some other company and he had to leave the city. She felt like ground was moving below her. On that day she could not think about anything else. She was like dumb. In the evening, he called up and told her to meet him in the restaurant where they used to dine frequently. She went there with a gift for him. He was waiting for her and when she entered he gave broad smile. She felt angry and thought how he could be so happy. Iam feeling so sad and he is smiling. I hate him and I shall never meet him again. She returned him gentle smile. She sat on the chair opposite to him. He began the conversation. "What would you like to have". She thought poison for you and myself but she said aloud "Anything you like". He gave a smile and said "Ok". He gave order and started to talk. She was not hearig him. Suddenly he said, "I will miss you a lot". She suddenly came from agony to the place where she was sitting. She was looking into his eyes and she realized that those words were coming from his heart. He continued," Aadya, from the day I met you I had feeling for you. We became close friends. You were so nice to me and I love to talk with you for hours. I didn't know for myself at that time that I was falling in love with you. But when I got offer from Mumbai, I thought whom I am going to miss. Then you came in my thoughts. I realized that I cannot live without you. Aadya I love you".

He finished and was waiting for Aadya's reply. Aadya was speechless. She said just four words, "I love you too". It was the most happiest moment of their life.

Next day Sumit went to Mumbai to join his new job. Aadya was not sad because he was not going anywhere. He will be in his heart.

Sumit along with his parents went to Aadya's home to ask her hand from her parents. Her parents agreed without much effort. Aadya and Sumit got married happily. Their love did not change on each other for their life time.